Shame

hey everyone this week has been so heavy and emotional draining, Yesterday we talked about forgiveness and its really hard for me to write a blog about it because its such a rich subject and would take several pages to cover all that lynn talked about.

Numb

when you feel numb you feel nothing...
why do we make ourselves numb? self defense, no pain, copycatting, tragedy, control, rebellion, fear, escape, self hatred, lies, insecurities, anger, over-whelmed, desperate, coping, stressed, abused

when we numb we want to take away usually one area of emotional but we don't work in that way. we end up numbing all emotions which unfortunately end up blocking Gods love and teachings 

we numb ourselves with drugs drinking technology sex.

where does it start why does it start? ... Shame ...

Shame

• shame is the state of our souls in a deep sickness. Its a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. a loss of respect of self esteem, Dishonor. 
• its a painful feeling of believing your a reject and feeling of unwanted and unloved 
• society convinces us that the less we talk about shame the more control it has over us.

people always associate shame and guilt together so let me shine a light of the difference :)

Guilt= I did something bad, its a behavior it does not define who you are God may use guilt to open your eyes to the wrongs you have caused by saying hey lets make this right and lets repent about it.
Shame= I am bad, its who I am It defines me. comes from the devil (I believe)

How to get out of Shame

we have to live and be real authentic and vulnerable 

Romans 12:2

New International Version (NIV)

² Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Ephesians 4:22

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²² You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires;

Colossians 3:8

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⁸ But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.

Romans 6:6

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⁶ For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with,^[a] that we should no longer be slaves to sin—

its 1000 little choices you have to make of not allowing your mind to go places

watch your thoughts so they become words watch your words so they become actions watch your actions so they become habits watch your habits for they become your character watch your character for it becomes your destiny what we think we become.